Respect your spouse’s opinions

You can’t always be right. Your spouse has a set of experiences that form the basis for their opinions. Those experiences are uniquely different from yours. At the same time be careful not to put your spouse on a pedestal. They possess human frailties just like you. If you think they can do no wrong, you set both them and yourself up for ultimate disappointment. Your spouse makes mistakes just like you. Respect them for it.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts
Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
For more marriage advice visit their website Simple Things Matter

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Great relationships require respecting yourself

You can’t respect someone else unless you show respect for yourself. Don’t put yourself down, instead recognize your strengths and strive to enhance them. If you recognize and build on your strengths, the negative habits become easier to overcome. As your stengths become solid, negative aspects fade into the background. You must be able to respect yourself individually before you can fully love another person.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts
Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
For more marriage advice visit their website Simple Things Matter

Get out of the rut

Understand that variety is necessary to all marriages. Don’t let those deep, well-established ruts get a foothold. If you think variety, then your marriage will be characterized by exciting, adventurous, humorous and fun-loving experiences that will add to the enjoyment for both of you. Make the sacrifices to go Beyond Boring with your lives together.

By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts
Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
For more marriage advice visit their website Simple Things Matter

The Valentine’s Day Gift of Time

In these tough economic times we think it is important to again remind folks that the best things in life are free.  To love, to be loved, and to give the gift of time is the best gift you can give to someone.  This is an especially important message on Valentine’s Day 2010.

Here are some ideas for saving your hard-earned money on Valentine’s Day and giving the most precious gift of all – your time:

* Share ideas for what you would like to do together in 2010.
* Write your lover a note with three things you admire most about him or her.
* Forget the $60 bouquet of roses – instead paint or draw a bouquet or write a love note to your lover.
* Read a romantic bedtime story to your lover.
* Shut off all electronics for Valentine’s Day – no phones, no cell phones, no computers, no PDA, no television – just the two of you.

Read the entire article to learn lots more ideas for a Gift of Time
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts
Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
For more marriage advice visit their website Simple Things Matter

Love by bullying never works

Don’t you just hate bullies! They try to get what they want by bullying you, by intimidating you, and by making you feel inferior to them. If you are like us, this NEVER works! Yet, so many good folks succumb to the bully. And we wonder why?

So what is a bully? In the simplest terms, a bully is someone who can’t get what he/she wants through normal means. What they want is power. When you deny them that power they resort to forceful means to get what they want.

Here is how it works in love and marriage. One of the folks in the relationship wants something – be it a new car, a new apartment, a new dishwasher, or a new toy of some variety. The other person involved in the relationship does not. As you might guess, all heck breaks loose!

The “bully” in the relationship must get what he/she wants. So instead of acting rationally (i.e., Do we have enough money to pay for this?), the bully resorts to name-calling (i.e., You are always keeping me from buying things!”), intimidation (“If you don’t let me buy this I am walking out the door.”), or they resort to making you feel inferior (i.e., How could someone like you be so stupid?”).

If you are like most people, you would rather “have peace.” So in the interest of maintaining harmony in your relationship, you fall prey to the bullying – you give them what they want.

But here is the deal – this strategy never works! You give them what they want and they then do it to you again! You always succumb to their wishes. You always lose. Letting them win is a bad idea.

Read the entire article about why Love by Bullying Never Works
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts
Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
For more marriage advice visit their website Simple Things Matter

Your quest for love

In the beginning of a budding love relationship, don’t get in a hurry in your quest for love and companionship.  To do so will often result in a failed relationship because one of you will run away before the relationship is cemented if you feel pressured!  And that would be too bad.  There is no question about that.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts
Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
For more marriage advice visit their website Simple Things Matter