Watch the non-verbal messages

Pay particular attention to non-verbal messages from your spouse. Our body language can sometimes tell more than the words that are spoken. Take the time to notice your spouse’s body language to see if it matches the verbal messages they are giving you. If it doesn’t match, ask your spouse if that is how he or she really feels about the subject. Misunderstanding leads to further misunderstanding. Clear up any problems immediately. Don’t let them build up. If you thought you understood something that was said, and it proves to be wrong, go back and clarify it right away.