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Your marriage failed – how to avoid the pitfalls again

October 18, 2012


Marriages fail.  Relationships collapse. It is sad to say and hard to accept by many, but the flames of love die out.  What started out with so much promise sometimes ends in disaster. Now the challenge is how to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and start all over again.

There are five important things that you need to do to avoid repeating the same mistakes from an earlier marriage.

1.  Take an honest look at your previous marriage and determine what you could have done differently to improve that relationship before it came to an end.  Could you have spent more time with your spouse, or taken more interest in their hobbies, or noticed the signs of trouble earlier and sought help to resolve the issues were festering, or talked more openly about what was bothering you?

2.  Repair your spirit and your balance.  Take the steps to get healthy mentally and physically.  Take time to heal and stabilize from your last relationship.  You can’t make appropriate decisions “off-balance” or in an unhealthy state.  You need to heal yourself first.

3. Know your worth!  Don’t fall for the seduction and settle for the first person that shows interest in you.  Wait to find someone who shares your values, beliefs and goals.

4.  Recognize that your next love will come along when you find someone who shares your interests.  You need to develop your interests — be it kayaking, camping out, dancing, or biking. You are much more likely to attract the right potential mate at places where others share your interests.

5.  Appreciate what you have!  If you have beautiful children, good health, a place to live, or a job, you already have more than most people in the world.  Focus on the positives.  Enjoy our life.  Your happiness will attract others to you.

By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts
Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
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