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Up in the Air: The Five Steps in the Journey to Commitment

December 14, 2009

Falling in love with another human being is easy, but making a commitment to love him or her forever is “up in the air” for many people. The new movie starring George Clooney entitled, “Up in the Air” mirrors the struggles so many folks go through when it comes to making a commitment to love somebody for a lifetime.  It’s a great movie, with “Academy Award” written all over it and was filmed in St. Louis.

The successfully married couples we have interviewed have shared many stories with us about their commitment to each other. Here are the five steps they have described about how they formed a commitment to each other for a lifetime of love:

  1. It is not enough to be deeply loved, you must reciprocate profound love as well, before a lifetime of commitment can be made.
  2. The person you commit to must, first and foremost, be your best friend.  You cannot make a lifetime commitment to someone you only love.
  3. If you think there will ever be a moment in a budding relationship when you will say, “I have no doubts about him/her so I am willing to make the lifetime commitment” – well, forget it!  It’s not going to happen.
  4. Someone who wants a successful marriage cannot promise a lifetime of commitment to someone they purport to love while plotting an escape at the same time.  A true commitment is unalterable and not disposable.
  5. And finally, remember this about commitment — it is NOT an on again, off again proposition.  Commitment to someone whom you love and consider your best friend must be an everyday thing.  Commitment is forever; it is not “up in the air.”

To read more about the Five Steps in the Journey to Commitment
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts
Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
For more marriage advice visit their website Simple Things Matter